Coach’s Wisdom

I frequently get people asking me profound questions that uncovers great wisdom that I feel should be shared with others. If you have your own questions that you would like an answer to, feel free to fill out the “Ask the Coach” section at the bottom of this page. Personal information and names will not be published if your question and answer is shared in this section. Also, take some time to read the questions that others have asked and you may find the information you are seeking, or possibly an answer to a question you didn’t even know you had. Hopefully this section will awaken, empower and inspire you.

Why we, regular people, for years trust others to influence our life?

In my opinion we allowed others to influence our lives because that is what we were taught. It was not our fault. As we began to grow up we were taught that others knew what was in our best interest more than we did. Our power was slowly taken away by parents, siblings, friends, religions, schools and other institutions as we allowed them to influence our lives. By allowing others to influence our lives we slowly became more and more powerless. It’s as if we were on autopilot. We lost our power to choose what is best for us. But that can change if you want it to. We do have what it takes to become more conscious in our living if we choose to take back our power. Yes we can choose to let go of the powerful hold others have on us and begin to make our own choices as to what we do, what we say and how we think. It does take courage but it’s worth it to become your own person. To find out who you truly are and live your life by being authentic and genuine. We can let go of the influence that others have over us.

It is truly my desire to finally live more comfortably and not have to feel I don’t have enough money. I am tired of living off my credit cards to make ends meet. How can I change this in my life?

When it comes to money it is so very important to realize that our personal worth and the money that comes our way are very connected. The more you believe in yourself and the better you feel about yourself the more monetary energy will come your way. We must feel worthy of receiving copious amounts of money or it will not come. If we feel lack we will get lack, but if we feel abundant about ourselves we WILL attract abundance. It’s all about how we feel about ourselves.

It’s hard to be a good person especially living with others around you that are mean. A few months ago I was scammed out of a lot of money. The police won’t do anything and the court system is just ridiculous. How can I be good when I got hurt badly and the system we live in sucks? It’s hard to be good when we live in a society that scams, steals, hurts and whatever.  How can I let go of the anger and negativity ?

I know that life can sometimes be very challenging. It has been said that our life on the outside is merely a reflection of what is going on inside of ourselves. From what you are telling me you must be feeling a great turmoil inside of you. You cannot control others and often our institutions seem unfair, but it is important to realize we are in control of how we respond to what is going on around us.

If we come to realize that no matter what goes on around us we have a choice in how we respond, then we are taking our power back from those we think did things to us. For me the way I was able to let go of the anger and negativity was to come to the place where I went inwards and began to change my belief systems and the way I thought. You see it’s all about perspective. We truly do get to choose our reality. No matter what anyone did or said to you it is you that gets to choose how you respond, how you think and what you believe.

What if you changed your perspective about the things that have happened to you? What if you looked at it differently? What if you stopped blaming others for your circumstances and took your power back? What if you truly worked on being a good person and didn’t care if others were mean? What if you started to realize that a society that hurts you and scams you is hurting just as much as you are? I believe that people are not inherently bad, they often just do bad things because they are wounded on the inside just like you.

If we are to change the society we live in we must first start by changing ourselves. It was Ghandi that said “Be the change you want to see in the world”. You can choose to let go of your anger and negativity if you really want to. I have done it and helped many others change their perspective so they could as well.

What if you ignored everyone around you and you took the personal responsibility to change yourself so you could move to a place of greater peace, tranquility, joy and happiness? It can be done as I have done it and I know many others who have done it as well. It does take moving away from blaming others and life’s circumstances and beginning to change yourself.

I’m feeling stuck. I want to make changes in my life but I can’t seem to do so. What can I do?

One of the cardinal rules of the Law of Attraction is to focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. This feeling of being stuck often will persist if you continue to focus on what you don’t have in your life while having a desire to have something else. If you really want to make changes begin to imagine what your life would be like when you are truly happy and content. Hold on to that feeling and begin to imagine some of the things you would be doing from that place of bliss and harmony. Write those things down and begin to schedule them into your weekly routine.

Often the feeling of being stuck comes from our mind and we try to think of ways to get unstuck. Stuckness is a feeling and the best way to change that feeling is to replace it with a better feeling. Find things that make you happy and begin to do them often. As you do so you will notice that the feeling of being stuck dissipates.

To move forward in life we do need courage, but when you muster that courage you will find the results well worth it. If you have always done what you have always done you will get what you always got. Do something different in your life and you won’t feel stuck. Pick a few things to change that are not too big so you begin to feel more comfortable with making changes in your life. For example, take just one class in something that interests you before enrolling in a full degree program.

I know it’s important to get in touch with my emotions but I can’t seem to do so. How do you get in touch with your emotions?

We all have emotions whether we know it or not. What I have found is that due to some emotional pain at sometime in life, people often close off that part of themselves to protect against further pain. What often happens is that we give over the running of the ship, so to speak to our minds. Although we always are feeling we don’t do so with much intensity or awareness as our mind tends to be more in control always protecting us from the pain some emotions may bring our way.

So in order to get more in touch with your emotions it becomes paramount to quiet the mind with techniques like meditation or journaling. We all have emotions but often we have shut down our ability to truly feel. The thinking mind and the feeling heart are different consciousnesses. If you want more feeling in your life then allowing your heart and mind to be more in balance is necessary. What I have found working with people is that the more they try to feel the less they do so because the trying is coming from their mind.

Pay attention to times when your mind is more quiet and become aware of the feelings that come up within you. Allow feelings to come up without censoring them or judging them. It does take practice to get more in touch with your emotions but in my case I have found it very worthwhile.

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